Everything under control?

Who controls you?
Who determines how you act and feel?
Who really pulls your strings?

Take the test below and find out… the results could make you see yourself and your behaviour in a new light.. and change your life for ever!

Review the ten statements below.
Give yourself a point for every thought or belief that roughly matches your own thinking. You may not be fully aware of your thinking, so use your intuition. Many of your thoughts and beliefs will have been developed when you were young – and will have become almost “automatic”.
Be honest with yourself to learn something useful.

Statements
1. “I’m often a victim of circumstances”.
2. “She made me so angry”.
3. “What happened in my past is the cause of my problems today”.
4. “He made me feel this small”.
5. “My genes and upbringing made me what I am – that’s me”.
6. “Terrible events in the world make me depressed”.
7. “I need someone stronger than myself to rely upon”.
8. “My problems are caused ‘out there’ by what happens to me”.
9. “I must be perfect”.
10. “My feelings are like a roller-coaster driven by events – I can’t help it when I get upset about things”.

Autonomy or dependence?

If you scored any points, then you should definitely consider investigating and changing your behavioural “map of the world” – the way in which you believe your feelings and behavior are determined. The more points you scored, the more likely you are to benefit from this investigatation! What do we mean by “map of the world”? What is wrong with the thinking in the statements above? Surely these are commonly held assumptions?
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